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Love others as yourself One of the main missions of this website is to make a world a better place. I want every person who reads this to feel better about yourself and then we are all will be much happier. I want to explain why loving others and loving yourself is so important. If you are uncomfortable or not used the word "Love" you can substitute it for "Kindness". Whatever love means to you, it definitely something that you need and want. First of all, don't try to love others on purpose, it will come to you with time. I really encourage you to meet your own needs whether it's love, kindness, security, financial stability or anything else before you start give it to others. You can't give others what you don't have, that's why take care of yourself first. People who have unmet certain needs would find it difficult to understand what loving others or caring about others really means. Unselfish love There is selfish love and there is unselfish love. Yes, people often can be nice and kind to manipulate others. If you get angry after you tried to be nice and it wasn't returned back to you, then it was selfish. Unselfish love is when you care about others no matter of outcome. It wouldn't matter if your love is returned or not, because you can afford give it to others. Unselfish love is like a gift. You give it to others without expecting anything in return. It feels good to give and share with others what you have - your inner love and kindness. It's true, no matter how nice you are, some people will never be able to appreciate it. Give your love and care to the world only if you can emotionally afford it. People who were loved and treated nicely are more likely to treat others the same way too. A person who was severely abused would have a very hard time to be very nice to other people. Being able to be receptive of love is very important too. Sometimes a person can have a perfect life but feel very unloved. Learning to be loved and trust others is a very important in understanding love. What love others as yourself means Love others as yourself means that you can only afford to love someone as you are able to love yourself. The way you treat yourself will be the way you treat others too. If you are too harsh on yourself, if you judge yourself a lot, more likely you treat others the same way. The more you love yourself, the more tolerant you'll be of others. The more you appreciate yourself, the more you will appreciate other people. If you are able to find lots of good qualities in yourself, you will find it in others too. We view the world through ourselves. If you have a great intolerance to others, look at yourself first. What are your unmet needs? Start loving yourself first and then you will be more patient to other people. Forgive yourself first and you will be able to forgive other people. If you are able to give others what they need, it would make a person feel loved. Sometimes we do give others what they don't need, but don't get upset about it and do everything with pure heart. Pure heart and kindness is what really matters. Do everything you can do to make a world a better place but only if you can emotionally afford it. If it hurts you to be nice to others, then don't be! Do what makes you happy and follow your heart. Listen to your heart and try to do what you think right. |
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