Should couples live together before marriage

I think it's better if couples don't live together before marriage. There are other ways to find out if you like each, other than moving in. It's more important to find out about each other's values and beliefs than who keeps the house cleaner.

If relationships work out after living together, I think it's not because they lived in the same place or room, but because they took time to get to know each other closer. There are many reasons why people move in, but I will talk about most common reasons and outcomes.

It is possible to find out about each others values without moving in. You need to take your time, talk to each other a lot and you will discover a lot through your conversations.

I never wanted to move in with anyone when I was single, why? Because I never wanted to commit to anyone until I found my perfect husband. Once I found my husband, I knew exactly that I wanted to be with him and I definitely wanted to marry him.

So, think about and find out how much do you really want to be with each other. If you are not sure whether you want to be with each other or not, then continue dating, but don't move in together.

Some people move in together because of personal insecurities, others move in together to save on rent, and others move in together because they were asked to. Yes, many girls move in with guys just because a guy asked her and she thought "why not", out of curiosity, out of wanting to save money or not be lonely anymore, there are many reasons why people move in together.

Personally, I never wanted to move in with anyone before marriage because I didn't want to loose my freedom, didn't want to be committed to anyone and I was still looking for my perfect man. I had religious views too, but it wasn't the only reason against moving in.

I knew many girls who moved in together with a guy, most of them moved in to save money on rent. They thought it would be temporarily but once you live together, it's hard to break up and even if a girl felt a guy wasn't right for her, she wasn't able to date anymore because of her current living arrangements...

Once she moved in, it's hard for her to break up the unfulfilled relationships that she is in.

Most of the men in those situations enjoyed living together more than a girl did.

Why such women agree to move in? Maybe they don't have a good social support, maybe they want to have someone who cares about her, even that it's not her Prince Charming, maybe she just doesn't know what she wants. For these women even marriage would be dangerous!

Women who don't know what they want, women who are very young, women who can be talked in to something very easily, and women who have financial difficulties are more likely to move in before marriage.

Every girl wants to find her perfect man, who will love her, respect her, and care for her forever, so it's easy for those women to beleive things will work out with a first man who showed attention to her even that deep down she could feel it's not right for her.

I care very deeply about all women who had to move in and had broken relationships, that's why I write about it.

After a few times of moving in with her men, a woman starts to beleive that she should live together before marriage to find out if they are for each other.

It would be a lot easier for her if she was more assertive and had faith she will find a perfect man without having to move in before marriage. Not many women are smart in dating, not many women are assertive and can judge men well, not many women know what they want and not many women know how to deal with men, that's why they find a lot of reasons to move in before marriage.

Women who had a painful break up before would want to move in together too. There are many reasons why people do it. I just want to tell all women that it's still possible to find a man you love even without cohabitation. It's possible to marry and be happy married without living together before marriage. Just be very careful and decide what you want, because marriage could be dangerous too if you don't assess each other well (your values and your desires).

Some people beleive they should live together before marriage, but my view is different. Just want to show people there is way to be happy without having to move in before you get married...

Tall Corina

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