Most men aren't as talkative as most women are. The problem with most men is that they like to talk but not about the same topics as women do. Men like to talk more about sports, money and etc. but when it comes to women, many men don't know what to say and don't know what to talk about. Women like to talk about relationships, other people and details of their lives.
Does it mean she just wants to overwhelm you with a lot of information about herself? No, not really.
Women enjoy talking process. That's how women relate to each other and trying to relate to men too. Women enjoy indirect speech in conversations. To men, indirect speech can seem as a waste of time that leads to nowhere.
Not all men are bad in conversations with women, but many.
If you are lucky, you can meet a man who is great in indirect conversations but it's pretty rare.
Men talking to women
I remember I met one guy before and he was always saying everything I wanted to hear. I loved talking to him and even more I liked to listen what he would say. He was great in conversations. Maybe you have such talent too. Some people have certain talents and they aren't aware of them.
Another problem with men can be is that their definition how to connect to a woman can be very different from woman's point of view. For example, for some women to connect, they have to look deep into your eyes and enjoy meaningful conversation or whatever else that she would like.
When men want to connect they will want to touch you, hug you or have sex with you. To them it's very meaningful connection! Other men, would feel comfortable and connected even without looking at you or touching you, only if they are in the same room with you. So, it depends on individual preferences of certain men and women.
Step by step how to connect
So, how do you connect with a man who isn't talkative and doesn't know where to begin in his conversation with you?
First of all, you need to evaluate his willingness to be with you.
You need to see how much he needs you. Maybe he needs you and loves you but he isn't able to express himself in the way you want him too. Could it a deal breaker for you?